How to keep Found Love
So now you have found love, and you really want this person, how do you ensure that the relationship has a chance to grow and survive?
- The person you have fallen in love with will reciprocate a feeling of love that they recognize as genuine. To ascertain your heart, ask yourself if you definitely want to be with this person and why. For instance, "I am in love with James because he is very sensitive to me as a woman and does not dismiss my opinions as worthless like my ex. I will definitely want to see him again and the relationship to go further."
- Armed with this conviction, use what you know about your personality, behaviour, character, and experience to figure out the compatibilities between the two of you. In other words, what do you notice about this person that registers with you? Nurture those compatibilities and highlight them to him/her so that they become the bonding tools for the two of you. It is like working from known to unknown.
- Subsequently you will become aware of the differences between both of you and learn how to accommodate each other’s idiosyncrasies as these differences become clear.
- As you carry on, effectively communicate the genuine feeling of love and appreciation to this person and watch how he/she responds to it.
Note at this point that gold diggers may well be pretending to you. The gold they are digging for may differ according to the person’s needs. Put checks in place and thoroughly ensure that you have not fallen for a gold digger.
5. Previous hurtful love experience and insecurity may make the person appear disinterested or overly cautious. Allow the person to voice their concern so that the two of you can sort through it and bury the ghost from the past. If you do not do this, the new relationship will either exist under the ghost of the past or be killed by it. So root it out.
To fall in love is to decide to let your emotional barriers down so that you can let another person in. It is a conscious decision that is controlled by two reasons namely:
v The real reason for falling in love usually subconscious
v The make-believe reason that sounds good to you e.g. “If I marry a doctor, my family and friends will have respect for me.”
What is your reason? This kind of love is usually romantic therefore you need to keep this person romantically interested in you. The clue is reminding yourselves of what attracted to you to each other. That force of attraction is one strong ember that will keep the flames of love burning.
Next week’s: Keeping the attraction turned on.
Written by Adannaya Chobbah © 2008
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